The way we grieve our losses is impacted by many factors including: our own unique coping style, , our history of previous losses, our support systems and, the way we view the loss. The way we grieve is also impacted by the kind of loss we have had, in other words who died and what is the nature of your relationship with that person.
There are some common aspects to each different kind of loss. The death of my mother affects me differently than the death of your mother affects you, because we are different people. But we have some similarities in common: we might both feel like orphans, particularly if we have no other parent. Or maybe we are both struggling with difficult relationships with our siblings, now that our parent has died.
It can be helpful to look at different kinds of losses and see some of their commonalities. This helps us normalize our experience and helps us better understand what we are going through.
The loss of a job, either suddenly or through retirement is very much like a death. There can be many issues including: loss of identity, loss of security, loss of confidence and loss of structure.
Individuals say, “I feel like I have no purpose, it feels like a death.” The grief that one experiences after suddenly losing or leaving a long term job is often misunderstood and not regarded as a legitimate loss.